tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6450854270080513022.post323973918937429051..comments2023-05-05T02:20:39.892-07:00Comments on Cryptic Language and Vague References: Gaydar Fine TuningOriginal Mohomiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05220176833570828412noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6450854270080513022.post-66714864930309695262009-10-30T07:49:46.209-07:002009-10-30T07:49:46.209-07:00I believe it can be taught to girls or at least ho...I believe it can be taught to girls or at least honed. I think its an inherent trait they use as they sort out who will be the best at bringing home the bacon - literally. My wife is TOTALLY in tune. Some times it becomes a game between us, to see who picks them out first. We laugh a lot over it. I do have to be careful about how MUCH interest I show when the dar goes off & she's around (okay i'm always careful) to not offend her. One interesting thing however is that we tend to have the same taste. weird I know but it's what works for us.MNJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06725519881936562003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6450854270080513022.post-54814892066642808012009-10-30T07:35:41.850-07:002009-10-30T07:35:41.850-07:00I'm using my 'dar a lot more these days. I...I'm using my 'dar a lot more these days. If I see stranger I want to say hello to, I tend to say hello, howareyou. But here's where the 'dar come in. If I'm getting a straight reading, my smile and eye contact are more restrained, in fact sometimes with a straight reading I'll just look in their eyes briefly, nod hello, and say "hey, howsitgoin". <br /><br />But with a gay reading, I'm more gregarious saying "hello" like we've met before and smiling or even laughing like it's so good to seem them again. (Who knows maybe we did know each other in our first estate!) With a gay reading I'll also sometimes just hold the eye contact, or even raise my eyebrows Grouco-style as if to say "Hey, I see you like cigars, too!" Such fun, but then again Matthew Sheperd thought he was among family, too. Maybe I ought to pull back just a bit. What do you think?<br /><br />I hope this discussion will continue. I'd enjoy hearing how others use, or perhaps misuse, the gift of the 'dar.<br /><br />:)Nedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05938186985738546670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6450854270080513022.post-29814573176080014512009-10-29T18:57:09.694-07:002009-10-29T18:57:09.694-07:00'dar... I love it I'm going to start using...'dar... I love it I'm going to start using that.<br /><br />Gaydar can be a fickle thing too. I have problems getting a read on guys I'm interested in. That's where I get frustrated.Seanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04561860729984232424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6450854270080513022.post-30063625125308115692009-10-29T14:29:10.263-07:002009-10-29T14:29:10.263-07:00Ha, I got that quite a bit, myself. Some girls th...Ha, I got that quite a bit, myself. Some girls thought I was gay because I didn't date girls even though there were options in front of me. Then they'd get to know me, and one day, they'd bust out with, "You know, when I first met you, I thought you might be gay, but now that I've gotten to know you, I can see you you're not gay: you just haven't found the right girl yet and you have high standards," or some such thing. And I would tally up another victory on my Straight-Acting score. Then I'd clinch the deal by talking up Catherine Zeta Jones and Keira Knightley (both of whom I had sincere crushes on), that sort of thing. :-)<br /><br />Then, after a while, I had a guy friend who was straight but flirtatious for fun, and I went ahead and flirted back, we put our hands on each other's things--LOL, I'm going to leave that little Freudian typo because it cracks me up--we put our hands on each other's THIGHS and spooned and told the girls not to be jealous of our love, and the girls, who were likely perturbed that we were giving each other more affection than either of us gave them, would just say, "Ew. It's a good thing I know you two aren't gay, or I'd be really worried." Mwahaha.Original Mohomiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12887614143300677214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6450854270080513022.post-69932773591497157702009-10-29T14:08:23.938-07:002009-10-29T14:08:23.938-07:00heh... gaydar. every once in a while a girl might...heh... gaydar. every once in a while a girl might think I'm gay. that's usually a first impression that they get. these are girls that associate introversion with being gay. in my case they happen to be right, but they falsely assume other quiet/soft-spoken straight guys to be gay. <br /><br />once i get to know these particular girls, i easily convince them that i'm straight. that's done through flirting and being an idiot in a guy-sort-of-way. then they say in a relieved voice, "wow, at first i thought you were gay." <br /><br />hehehehe... so funny.<br /><br />It's a lot more difficult to fool a gay person.Benhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08175153474572340487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6450854270080513022.post-88478729711469586092009-10-29T12:57:47.076-07:002009-10-29T12:57:47.076-07:00HAHA I love this post. I wish I had friends like y...HAHA I love this post. I wish I had friends like yours.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12900720352902803908noreply@blogger.com