tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6450854270080513022.post7501808217503465837..comments2023-05-05T02:20:39.892-07:00Comments on Cryptic Language and Vague References: Confessions of a Nurtured Homo, Part 2Original Mohomiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05220176833570828412noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6450854270080513022.post-14564817427046636042011-03-19T22:50:09.220-07:002011-03-19T22:50:09.220-07:00All checks for me, but I'm with John on both o...All checks for me, but I'm with John on both of his comments.Bravonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02762204502534599107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6450854270080513022.post-20840980906594028722011-03-18T10:35:44.860-07:002011-03-18T10:35:44.860-07:00I wonder if having a distant father and domineerin...I wonder if having a distant father and domineering mother contributes to <i>feeling conflicted about one's homosexuality</i>? That makes a hell of a lot more sense to me...<br /><br />I have often felt that the positive relationships I had with my parents, and the strong self-esteem it fostered in me, was my number one asset in coming to terms with this in my life, and coming to a place of self-acceptance and comfort with who I am.John Gustav-Wrathallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03557940681381951271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6450854270080513022.post-64502126850796936352011-03-18T10:08:45.033-07:002011-03-18T10:08:45.033-07:00I can relate to a lot in this. The only thing I d...I can relate to a lot in this. The only thing I didn't have was a traumatic sexual experience.<br /><br />I've always thought that "domineering mother/distant father" thing was the biggest load of tripe I've ever heard... I grew up with very close, positive relationships with both my parents. Both parents were nurturing. Dad spent lots of time with us. Mom was anything but "domineering."John Gustav-Wrathallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03557940681381951271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6450854270080513022.post-11148079018476935562011-03-18T09:19:59.788-07:002011-03-18T09:19:59.788-07:00Intereseting common threads. Like Bravone (see Pa...Intereseting common threads. Like Bravone (see Part 1 comments), I think that the personality/ personal traits we're born with may predispose us to become either gay or straight, and that our environment can, but doesn't necessarily, tip us one way or the other. If that's true, then both genetics and environment play their parts, but because there are so many variables in both genetics and environment, the outcome isn't predictable.<br /><br />IF that scenario is accurate, why then wouldn't reparative therapy be more successful than it is? Or is it more successful than I think it is? Or is it just so poorly administered that it's ineffective?<br /><br />Any thoughts out there?Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11768108025134892093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6450854270080513022.post-89021727042926133522011-03-18T05:09:47.510-07:002011-03-18T05:09:47.510-07:00Wow, you sound exactly like me. I am as serious as...Wow, you sound exactly like me. I am as serious as a heart attack on this. I remember, when I was no older than a frist grader, kissing my best friend since birth (a girl) and getting scorned by adults and feeling bad about doing "such a thing." <br /><br />I was never part of the guys, and on many occasions, was always lumped together with the girls. I never liked the rough, rude, and prickish bahavior "the guys" exhibited and hated being split into boys v. girls. I remember having one male friend in 2nd and 3rd grade, but other than that, no one. I also had, and still have, poor communication with my father, and was always momma's little boy; constantly with her, running errands, and talking with her.<br /><br />I wasn't a team sports/organized sports player. A game of kickball with friends, or something less competative was my style.<br /><br />I was overweight, acne prone, and unibrowed; and I would look at other men wishing I could look like them. <br /><br />All this in addition to endless torment from my peers including the most popular terms of "gay" and "faggot" in jr. high. Thank God I went to the High School I did, or this comment might not be here today.<br /><br />So, when people tell me that being gay is genetics, I laugh at them, tell them to live my life, and get back to me, because there is no way in hell my being gay is "just genetics."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com