I've thought about commenting on this before, but I didn't want to alienate anyone or hurt those who are going through genuinely emotionally difficult times. But I just have to say: male homos tend to be hypersensitive and emotional compared to their "straight" counterparts, and it can get really old after a while.
I hope it doesn't sound like I'm harping or belittling in saying this, though. Many of you are going through pains I am not and may not fully understand. You are suffering, and some of that suffering comes out in your conversation. I mean no disrespect to your pain or your frustrations. They are real, and they deserve respect. I'm just stating my frustration.
I have several "straight" friends, and I find it remarkably refreshing to hang out with them in one aspect in particular: the marked drop in drama. I'd like to experience that with my not-so-"straight" friends as well, but maybe that's asking too much?
To be honest, I don't think gay men are doing themselves a favor at all when they start bickering in tones of adolescent insecurity. It certainly does little for the defense that we are just as emotionally and/or mentally healthy as the next guy. Most people would, correct or not, take it as a sure sign we are, in fact, nothing of the sort.
There are some interesting--even fascinating--discussions here in the moho blog world. I enjoy open, frank discussions. But I find the emotionality fascinating in the train wreck sense. Maybe it's just because most bloggers all know each other better than I do? So it truly is a more "personal" discussion for them than it is for me? I just don't understand the apparent hypersensitivity I see in some of these discussions. The thinly-disguised jabs. The insults trying to pass as wit. I'm not sure whether to feel sorry for the people who feel the need to constantly resort to that, or tell them to grow up and be respectful of others even in disagreement, or to laugh at the comedy of it, like an emotional version of a Three Stooges routine.
I mean, adults everywhere get defensive and act and speak in immature and disrespectful ways. It's certainly not unique to people who experience homosexual attractions. But it's the prevalence of the insecure, overreactive, pubescent adolescent tone that wears on me after a while.
So are we mostly mature adults, men, or are we allowing ourselves to be dominated by our insecure, adolescent personas, especially in the blog world where it feels like we're somehow less accountable or more masked? Sometimes I wonder.