...that the guys who are most vocal about fulfillment being found exclusively in a homosexual relationship are often going about homosexual relationships in ways unlikely to be fulfilling in any meaningful way?
Have you ever noticed the exact same thing for straight guys and their relationships with women? And if you haven't, look outside of the Mormon sphere.
This isn't exclusively a gay trait. It's a Y-chromosome trait.
I think Original Mohomie's point is that a truly meaningful relationship is not necessarily gender specific, and that those who insist that it is are probably finding only one kind of fulfillment.
I disagree that it's the same thing or found in even near the same percentage among straight guys, Max, even though I think I understand where you're coming from (and believe it or not, I know at least three non-LDS people..I know, I'm so worldly). I think straight guys tend to be a bit more honest with themselves about their motives and about when they're just in it for fun/recreation. Perhaps they feel less need for validation, hm? *insert Church Lady pursed lips expression here*
My anecdotal little "Have you noticed" observations will go both ways, and though I knew this might strike a cord among folks who readily amened the previous ones or who might feel defensive for some reason or another, just like other people felt defensive about the other ones, it's all meant in good fun. *shrug*
blj, interesting thought, and I think I agree to an extent, if you mean what I think you do. But more than that, I just have to laugh a little when I hear guys preaching on about their super-romanticized longing for deeply fulfilling love and then I see them...well, "lookin' fer luv in all the wrong places" (was that song written by a straight man?! Maybe Max was right! Nah).
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You'll be fine. Keep looking and you'll meet Mr. Right.
Have you ever noticed the exact same thing for straight guys and their relationships with women? And if you haven't, look outside of the Mormon sphere.
This isn't exclusively a gay trait. It's a Y-chromosome trait.
I think Original Mohomie's point is that a truly meaningful relationship is not necessarily gender specific, and that those who insist that it is are probably finding only one kind of fulfillment.
BTW -- I like your new blog design.
I disagree that it's the same thing or found in even near the same percentage among straight guys, Max, even though I think I understand where you're coming from (and believe it or not, I know at least three non-LDS people..I know, I'm so worldly). I think straight guys tend to be a bit more honest with themselves about their motives and about when they're just in it for fun/recreation. Perhaps they feel less need for validation, hm? *insert Church Lady pursed lips expression here*
My anecdotal little "Have you noticed" observations will go both ways, and though I knew this might strike a cord among folks who readily amened the previous ones or who might feel defensive for some reason or another, just like other people felt defensive about the other ones, it's all meant in good fun. *shrug*
blj, interesting thought, and I think I agree to an extent, if you mean what I think you do. But more than that, I just have to laugh a little when I hear guys preaching on about their super-romanticized longing for deeply fulfilling love and then I see them...well, "lookin' fer luv in all the wrong places" (was that song written by a straight man?! Maybe Max was right! Nah).
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