So...I'm finding it actually seems hard to become close to many of the mohos here. Maybe it's because there are so many of us. I can think of a few mohos I would like to get to know better that I haven't, but there are so many that I simply can't do it. I'm only one man, for goodness' sake.
Maybe there's a candy store vibe. Why pick just one candy when there are so many to try? Are we all secretly window shopping rather than making actual friends? Am I doing that?
I have often found it easier to spend quality one-on-one time with my straight friends here. Even the married ones. And the beauty of it is that there's no concern over who will be attracted to whom, and we don't have to talk about moho topics all the time, and we relate on several levels (we're actually friends even though they don't share my affinity for the male physique--go fig). There's just less weirdness. With the mohos, it just seems hard to spend good one-on-one time sometimes. Maybe that's best when at least one of the parties is unsure of his own or the other's motives or afraid of his own weakness. I can totally understand and respect that. I'm just saying that's not an issue with the straight boys, so I sometimes feel like our interactions are more diverse and meaningful, not to mention more emotionally healthy.
And maybe the moho thing really isn't much different from guys and girls hanging out one-on-one. Hm...no, it really is for the most part, but not in some ways.
I love my mohos, and yet I'm kind of tired of the weirdness around this whole moho thang. Is it less weird in gay circles where people actually ARE admittedly looking for partners?
I guess all I'm getting at is that even though I still have not gotten to know several mohos around here as well as I would like, maybe it's about time to branch out and rejoin the straight world more, even the straight and single world. Scary.